Nigerian Girls: Social Media and Selfie

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For tips on how to take a selfie, talk to Nigerian girls. Many knows that your "cute" side is the one without your parting, and it is hot to pose with a hand on your hip and one leg straight, the other bent, followed by pouting (duck lips) or tongue out. Not impressed with the final pic? Simply download one of the many "picture surgery apps" to edit pimples and blemishes, look thinner, whiten teeth, shrink noses, and even apply more make-up.


Teenagers have always been keenly aware of how they're seen by their peers. Social media maximized that self-awareness. Now that nearly three-quarters of Nigerian teens have access to smartphone, many of them while away their time posting their thoughts, pictures and lapses in judgement for swift praise or scorn from hundreds (or thousands) of "friends and followers". Now, your charm, looks and popularity is readily quantifiable, and your mistakes are easy for others to see.

Just how this technology revolution has affected young girls is evident in the craze of constantly seeking "likes" and attention on social media. It is as if the "likes" amounts to votes for a beauty contest. In this image-saturated social medias like Facebook and Instagram, comments on girls' posts tend to centre disproportionately on looks and sexuality. How hard is it to appear hot but not slutty? How hard is to to appear sexually confident without not looking like a thirsty whore? That young women often aspire to be tantalizingly hot should not raise eyebrows anymore given that most successful female celebrities often present themselves as eye-candy for the male gaze. Everybody want to go braless like Rihanna in videos, take selfie as good as Kim Kardashian, be sexually aggressive like Maheeda.

Such self-objectification comes at a cost. The pressure on young women to reduce their worth to their bodies and to see those bodies as a collection of parts that exist for others' pleasure. Unlike the past when feminists complain of sexual objectification (resulting from sexual harassment in the workplace and on the street, gender inequality e.t.c.), the Kardashians of this generation find showing boobs and legs empowering. When you attack them for near nudity, the Amber Roses say you're body-shaming them. They feel more liberated when half naked, and get angry at unending sexual advances. The quote "dress the way you want to be addressed" is now incorrect and outdated.

This is down to the new culture which prioritises women being hot. You can hardly find ladies tops with sleeves this days. Even native attires like Buba and Iro are no where to be found. Most now sew all their attires sleeveless with chest wide opened and short skirts. Many of these Instagram ladies take selfie in different hotel rooms, many of which we know they can't afford a cup of tea in those hotels. Many in different cars as if they work in an auto-mechanic shop. Most of them are proud to show they're sex symbols, but ladies, it goes to show how low your self-esteem is. We know you're a thot, but at least be modest.

I know many beautiful ladies on Instagram with body fully covered (some in hijabs) with many followers and over a thousand likes per photo. Believe me ladies, the real sexy and hot is: been well to do, smart and confident, hardworking and independent. Omotola Jolade is sexy. Genevieve is sexy. Linda Ikeji is sexy. All these women are successful and don't need half-naked social media selfie to stay relevant. Be empowered (I don't mean been confident with boobs and legs showing)! Don't encourage forceful sex (rape) by appearing scantily clad in social media photos!

Coined from The Economist's article titled "Two steps forward, One step back"

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