All You Need To Know About Inter-Tribal Marriages in Nigeria

Inter-Tribal Marriages in Nigeria

Inter-Tribal Marriages in Nigeria

My friend likes a girl from a town called Offa, in Ilorin. He did a little fact-finding and discovered that the indigenes of that town readily don't allow their people marry from other sub-tribes. He was really pissed that how could that be in this modern generation. In this article, we would see the problems of inter tribal marriages in Nigeria, and the advantages of inter tribal marriage in Nigeria.

Many Nigerians still deplore inter-tribal marriage, which is one of the potent weapons for welding the country together. These critics of inter-tribal marriage among Nigerians cite the traditional myths against other tribes in the country, and mouth verbal strictures against other tribes without let.

Interestingly, even among people of the same tribe, sub-ethnic preferences obtain during marriage (like my friend's case). Sometimes, even education and money cannot soothe deep-rooted inter-tribal distrust, suspicion and prejudices.

Inter-tribal marriage is very, very positive, especially in a country with diverse cultures such as ours. It encourages federalism and, beyond that, we have to see ourselves as one people. Human beings constitute a pot-pourri of life. Inter-tribal marriage should be encouraged because it strengthens Nigeria’s federalism and helps to foster a pan-Nigerian agenda.

Inter-tribal marriages are different things to different people. They’re a fair to some and a snare to others. They’re abominable to some; to others, the future for Nigeria. Those married to spouses from other tribes tend to be more open; often more appreciative and tolerant of other ethnic groups.

Differences in culture and ethnicity are often a plus in some marriages. When well-managed, they can forge strong bonds in a loving relationship, but that's not to say there can't be problems in some inter-tribal marriage.

Some relatives are at the root of some of the crises in inter-tribal marriages in Nigeria. Initial resistance from parents is usually due to the fear of diluting or losing their culture or their religious beliefs.

In a patriarchal society, the woman and children are expected to adopt the man’s culture and tongue. If a girl marries outside her tribe, it’s expected that her husband’s culture consumes hers.

If she is perceived not to conform to this, the husband or his family may intervene to enforce it or, more often, spark off a debilitating ‘cold war’. When in-laws interfere in this manner, there may be real trouble in that home.

I'm a product of a broken inter-tribal marriage, so I have first-hand experience of many things that could go wrong in this type of union that I can't even discuss via this avenue. I'd say "before you commit" to an inter-tribal relationship (all in the name of love) that both family members will frown upon, take all verifiable pros and cons into consideration.

Do you want an isolate marriage with no family support? how long can you go without your family's support? is it worth it? will you be happy in the end?

The problems of inter tribal marriages in Nigeria and the advantages of inter tribal marriage in Nigeria are not mutually exclusive. 

Like we Yoruba's pray, "a ni gbe egun elegun oh" AMIN!!!


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